Sex and the Six Year Old

"So today's the last day you'll ever be five. Isn't that wild? You'll be six tomorrow."

"Lucy told me she is sex today. I told her the word was sexy, not sex."

At this point I'm trying to figure out what in the world prompted him to tell me this. I guess "six" is close enough for any male?
It's just their DNA.

"I think Lucy just wants to know she's beautiful. Maybe next time she says it you can tell her sexy is an adult word and she's more than that- tell her she's beautiful to you."

"I will Mamma because she is."

Parenting is on the fly. Kids are always listening and learning from you and how you react to the world. Maybe this conversation is one brick of a thousand to build a wonderful young man.

(Note: I did change the little girl's name. And he truly does adore her.)

Respect

It was a hard decision to make- football or martial arts this fall. I didn't leave the decision totally up to Luke, our soon to be 6 year old. He changed his mind every time I asked which he preferred. I realized he was conflicted between what he wanted to do and what he thought we wanted him to do. He knows his daddy played football and watches every UGA game filled with passion. Luke barely glances at the T.V. preferring to draw, jump off the couch, and play super hero as we cheer for every great play.

I stepped in and decided I would take the pressure off and push for the activity best suited to him- jiu jitsu, a Thai martial art. Would we love going to Saturday morning flag football games and cheering for our little tribe of 5 & 6 year olds? You bet! But would he love it? Probably not. He would enjoy the environment at times, but it wouldn't build his confidence or strengthen his weaknesses. In fact, I think it would have been a step backwards for him.

He's played three years of organized baseball. The first two were laid back leagues where it was just cute seeing the little ones running around. This season was different- some kids began showing real interest and talent. Coaches began worrying about winning. Parents started pushing for their children to perform. I get all of the above as I was a pretty good player who loved everything about softball. I have a drive to compete against myself and others. Throwing for thirty minutes was fun to me as I pushed myself for improvement...

Luke doesn't give a damn. I never yelled at him for not doing one thing or another on the field, but would praise him when he did something with effort correctly. I'd remind him to continue with the same effort as his "give a damn" faded quickly. It was so frustrating because he could throw, catch, and hit just as well as anyone else on the team. But he'd do it a couple times to pacify me and get back to to goofing.

He doesn't have that traditional sport personality. I had to come to terms with it and it wasn't bad. I just had to swallow it as an athlete myself. For the sake of allowing my son to be himself, I have to acknowledge and respect his unique qualities.

We are three weeks into jiu jitsu and he is loving it. He gets to be around kids as he learns discipline. Instead of walking away deflated from practices, he's got a little strut to his step. I learn something from him every single day and I respect my 6 year old little man.

Go Fishing and Make Memories

Fishing was one of my favorite things to do as a child. It wasn't just because of the fishing, the whole event was special. I was outdoors with my parents with little distraction other than what nature provided.

This time of year is classic fishing weather. Plan to go either early morning before it gets too hot or go late afternoon and fish into the cooler hours. Pack a picnic meal, chairs, and maybe a frisbee too. Leave the Gameboy DS at home and unplug for uninterrupted family time.

This short article provides some practical advice for the making the fishing as successful as possible.

http://www.weather.com/sports-rec/fishing/tips-fishing-kids-20120726

Don't keep putting days like this off- your child is here now. Have fun!

Building With Nature

As our summer vacation comes to a close, the kid has become slightly bored with his arsenal of toys. Swimming wasn't an option today as the weather wasn't bad, but timing between looming dark clouds would have been a gamble. What's worse than getting your swim suits on and getting all the gear packed and the bottom falling out?

So, after a bit of Xbox and and him asking me to play Legos again, I knew I needed a distraction. I honestly can only handle Ninja Turtle and City Legos once a day. And I only do it then out of guilt. Bad mom.

The solution was a compromise of our interests. He likes building and I like doing anything outside. We set off on a hunt for building supplies on the edge of the woods. I told him he could build anything he wanted with what he found. He took off on the blaze of a12 volt powered four wheeler. I meandered behind to remind him to not crash into things.

We returned home from our journey with a grocery bag of dirty sticks, long blades of grass, and a few sprigs of bamboo he snatched from my aunt's garden unbeknownst to me. Sorry Aunt Judy.

It seems kids will let you think for them as long as you allow it. I try not to allow it. For example, he wanted to build a house first. I said okay and he could get started. But he didn't want to actually think it through, he wanted me to do it. Instead of doing it for him, I asked leading questions so he could figure it out himself. And because he created something himself he learned from the process. He gained a little critical thinking skill while also gaining a little self confidence. Real self confidence from real accomplishment.

Take a look at his cabin and his teepee. Pretty cool for a five year old.

Oh, and he learned how to whittle a stick.

Drop the Zero Calories, Get With the Hero Calories

I was on the roadthis weekend, which means I visited a place I rarely see in person- aconvenience store.  We needed gasolineand were thirsty, so I did what I must. I walked in and began browsing the drink coolers.  How in the world are there so many optionsfor such a simple need?  There are sodas,diet sodas, teas, energy formulas, flavored milks, coffee beverages, sportsdrinks, plain water, and specialty waters.

I gravitated towardsthe water section and reached for a new bottle I'd not seen before, FruitWater.  It sounded like it might be agood treat for my son, something we'd meet in the middle on.  I did the label check to see what fruit juicewas used and !GASP! It  contains no juiceat all.  Zero.  None. Nada.

 

So, I'm wonderingwhy the heck are they calling it Fruit Water? I continue to read the label and see it has zero calories.  Okay, that might be good.  But my interest quickly goes away once I seethat it has food colorings Red 40 and Blue 1. See, we still had two more hours of driving and there was no way I wasgoing to suffer through a "food dye episode" trapped in the car withthe kid.  Don't believe it affectsbehavior?  I've experimented on the boyand he's not cute when he gets a big dose of this stuff.  You're welcome to try it on him too.  You just can't bring him back until thecrying mixed with hyperactive outbursts are over.

Okay, so I really doknow why they named it Fruit Water.  Sodo you.  It sounds like a responsiblechoice.  It appeals to the side of you thatwants something that appears to be healthy. Many people still judge a book by it's cover.  It's not smart, but they trust theimage.  "Everyone knows soda is badfor you, but this is water and fruit guys! I'm a health nut here!"

 

I suppose much ofthis began as a result of regular soft drinks being blamed for at least some ofthe obesity problem.  Coca Cola seems tohave almost turned to non-sodas as their banner products now.  Low or no calorie beverages dominate thecooler front and advertising.  Theypromote how these teas, waters, energy formulas, and sports drinks willactually improve your health standing. Hmmm.  Seems like the mostunhealthy, overweight people I know gulp these magic potions like, well, water.

 

So, let me breakdown what red flags one should look for and at least consider when choosing adrink you plan to have on a regular basis.

*Zero Calories:   If it has lots of flavor and zing, then restassured it has artificial sweeteners in it. 

        Artificial sweeteners are lab madechemical mixtures even if they contain something

        that was once naturally sweet.  There is a lot, and I mean a lot of evidencethat regular

        consumption of these sweeteners is justas bad, if not worse for you than plain old sugar. I      tend to trust nature over profit driven scientists. 

 

       Read some information for yourself onthis topic by following the links below.

 

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-204_162-57593133/artificial-sweeteners-could-lead-to-obesity-diabetes/

http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2012/12/04/saccharin-aspartame-dangers.aspx

http://www.doctoroz.com/videos/artificial-sweeteners-milk

 

*BraggingLabel:  If the label is loud with lots ofbragging about what they've put into the product,

                               I'msuspicious.  What are they trying to makeup for or hide?  What bandwagon are             

                          they jumping on?  Yeah, not much scientific data here.  I'm just skeptical. 
                          Honest people and products tend to be morehumble in my opinion.

 

*BrightColored:  If the drink is eye catchingcolorful, you can bet the bank it has food coloring in it.

                          Food dyes may belinked to both short term and long term health problems.
                          Remember, ifyou'd like to see a reaction to Red 40 in person, you may borrow my
                          son and give hima Kool Aid pouch.

 

              Research foryourself, seriously, with the following to get you started.

http://www.foxnews.com/health/2013/01/16/new-fear-about-food-dyes/

http://losangeles.cbslocal.com/2012/02/23/synthetic-food-dyes-raising-health-concerns-among-doctors-parents/

 

Maybe, you'rewondering what's the alternative?  Createyour own drink with natural ingredients! If you like teas, brew it at home. If you're a water fan you can jazz it up with the Pinterest worthy fruitinfusing trend.  If you like sodas, tryadding flavors to plain seltzer water. My favorite is seltzer with a lime squeezed in it.  It's so simple and refreshing. 

 

If you're not aDIYer, or just need something on hand, there are some better options outthere.  Check out these two I found.  Both can be ordered through Amazon.

 http://www.talkingrain.com/sparkling-water.aspx

 http://www.drinkhint.com/

 

Never trust that abeverage (or anything for that matter) is healthy just because it isn't soda orbecause of slick marketing.  You have toinvestigate and see what is acceptable to you. If it is truly just an occasional treat, I say don't sweat it.  Enjoy. But be careful what you are introducing to you or your child's tastebuds on a regular basis.  It's easy tostart bad habits or cravings.

Gluten Free Macaroni & Cheese

It's been one heck of a summer! So much so, I haven't posted in ages. All good things, but slow go and frustrating. Maybe in a later post I will share. Gluten free macaroni and cheese takes priority at this time- as it should.

I haven't made mac and cheese since I went GF 1 1/2 years ago. At one time it was a weekly staple twice a week. Maybe one reason I was chubby but lovable LOL.
Tonight was electric in our households the boys realized what was coming. It did not disappoint. Not a bit.

Here's what you need and how:

Gluten free elbow noodles cooked (1 pkg)
1/2 standard block mozzarella cheese cubed
1/2 cup Alfredo sauce
2 tbs butter (I like Kerrygold)
1-2 tsp mustard
Salt and pepper to taste

Combine ingredients in sauce pan over low heat. Stir as it all combines and cheese melts. Bam! Good stuff.

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